Couple Alignment Coaching
EVER NOTICE HOW MANY OF YOUR THOUGHTS, DURING A COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR SPOUSE, TAKE YOU OUT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT TO FUTURE WORRIES OR PAST LAMENTS?
If you’re not aware of what you tell yourself in your mind (self-talk), and uncertain about how to return to the present moment, you are at risk of mismanaging your emotions in sensitive discussions with your partner.
The thoughts you think inside your mind end up on your lips. Lifedraining thoughts cause similar emotions that, in turn, produce unwanted behavioral outcomes, such as reactivity, in your discussions. And, the point is to obtain great outcomes for both, right?
We are here for you, contact us today for help and let us take you through the practical solutions. Mindfulness helps you retain a calm heart-centered awareness in challenging moments by making it easier for you and your partner to
SOME BENEFITS OF COACHING
- Focus your attention regardless that other thoughts may be vying for time.
- Manage your body’s reactions with conscious awareness and response choices.
- Calm any reactivity that would interfere with your ability to communicate.
- Notice any limiting thoughts that cause emotions of fear, guilt, shame, and so on.
- Better understand yourself and others as human beings on a learning journey.
- Let go of fear-inducing beliefs and replace them with life enriching ones.
- Choose the thinking-feeling state you want in a given moment.
- Set an intention for what outcome you want to produce in your communication.
- It gives more focus on coachee
- The coachee is more open with areas of weakness that cannot be shared in the open
- The coach uses personalized tools with coachee for in-depth self-awareness
- The real root of performance challenge is identified and intervention is directly focused on such
- Improvement can be tracked
- The coach is a guide not an instructor
- Coach and Coachee can create a custom plan: a “roadmap” to the goals
- There is an avenue to resolve situational roadblocks that may emerge along the way
Spot Test
- When you’re upset with your partner, do you eat more?
- Is your blood pressure worse than when you first got married?
- Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?
- Do you prefer to be with other people than alone with your partner?
- Do you and your partner fight about money more than 3 times a week?
- Do you constantly get colds, and get cuts and scrapes that take a long time to heal?
- When you feel there is a problem in your marriage (stress), do you usually keep it to yourself?
- Are you embarrassed for your children to see how you treat each other?
- Do you resent how much you have to do in your relationship?
- Do you feel lonely in your relationship?
- Do you lie awake at night worrying about your marriage?
- Are you relieved when your partner leaves home?
- Since you’ve been married, have you gained a significant amount of belly fat?
- Do you wish you could communicate more openly with your partner?
- Do you feel like you don’t get enough praise or credit from your partner?
- Do you have more cavities than usual?
- Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?
- Are you getting more headaches and stomachaches than usual?
- Do you feel dissatisfied with your sex life?
- Do you fantasize about divorce or separation?
Add up the number of times you answered “Yes” If you have more than five “yes’s”, then you have a high stress marriage. Anything above 8 is high stress – and you owe it to yourself to get help.