Couple Alignment Coaching

Couple Alignment Coaching

Some Benefits of Coaching

• ① Focus your attention regardless of other thoughts that may be vying for time.
• ② Manage your body’s reactions with conscious awareness and response choices.
• ③ Calm any reactivity that would interfere with your ability to communicate.
• ④ Notice any limiting thoughts that cause emotions of fear, guilt, shame, and so on.
• ⑤ Better understand yourself and others as human beings on a learning journey.
• ⑥ Let go of fear-inducing beliefs and replace them with life-enriching ones.
• ⑦ Choose the thinking-feeling state you want in a given moment.
• ⑧ Set an intention for what outcome you want to produce in your communication.
• ⑨ It gives more focus on the coachee
• ⑩ The coachee is more open about areas of weakness that cannot be shared in the open
• ⑪ The coach uses personalised tools with the coachee for in-depth self-awareness
• ⑫ The real root of the performance challenge is identified, and the intervention is directly focused on such
• ⑬ Improvement can be tracked
• ⑭ The coach is a guide, not an instructor
• ⑮ Coach and Coachee can create a custom plan: a “roadmap” to the goals
• ⑯ There is an avenue to resolve situational roadblocks that may emerge along the way

Spot Test

1. ① When you’re upset with your partner, do you eat more?
2. ② Is your blood pressure worse than when you first got married?
3. ③ Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?
4. ④ Do you prefer to be with other people rather than alone with your partner?
5. ⑤ Do you and your partner fight about money more than 3 times a week?
6. ⑥ Do you constantly get colds and get cuts and scrapes that take a long time to heal?
7. ⑦ When you feel there is a problem in your marriage (stress), do you usually keep it to yourself?
8. ⑧ Are you embarrassed for your children to see how you treat each other?
9. ⑨ Do you resent how much you have to do in your relationship?
10. ⑩ Do you feel lonely in your relationship?
11. ⑪ Do you lie awake at night worrying about your marriage?
12. ⑫ Are you relieved when your partner leaves home?
13. ⑬ Since you’ve been married, have you gained a significant amount of belly fat?
14. ⑭ Do you wish you could communicate more openly with your partner?
15. ⑮ Do you feel like you don’t get enough praise or credit from your partner?
16. ⑯ Do you have more cavities than usual?
17. ⑰ Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?
18. ⑱ Are you getting more headaches and stomachaches than usual?
19. ⑲ Do you feel dissatisfied with your sex life?
20. ⑳ Do you fantasise about divorce or separation?

Add up the number of times you answered “Yes". If you have more than five “Yeses”, then you have a high-stress marriage. Anything above 8 is high stress – and you owe it to yourself to get help.