{"id":232,"date":"2023-10-31T09:36:59","date_gmt":"2023-10-31T09:36:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wp3.commonsupport.com\/newwp\/rellhops\/?p=232"},"modified":"2024-11-28T21:50:54","modified_gmt":"2024-11-28T21:50:54","slug":"podcasting-operational-change-management-inside-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/podcasting-operational-change-management-inside-3\/blog\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Reacting Instead of Responding Is Hurting Your Emotional Intelligence and How to Fix It"},"content":{"rendered":"<section class=\"kc-elm kc-css-357846 kc_row\"><div class=\"kc-row-container  kc-container\"><div class=\"kc-wrap-columns\"><div class=\"kc-elm kc-css-935131 kc_col-sm-12 kc_column kc_col-sm-12\"><div class=\"kc-col-container\"><iframe title=\"Why Introspection Matters\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/s-NiJzwdN0Y?start=4&#038;feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><div class=\"kc-elm kc-css-527147 kc_text_block\"><\/p>\n<p>We know emotional intelligence is important. It helps us empathize with other people so<br \/>We communicate better and fight less. It helps us understand our own actions so we can<br \/>be more productive and less reactionary. It\u2019s not always easy, though, and this video<br \/>from the School of Life explains how it can go wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Using the Androcles and the Lion fable, the video makes a really powerful point about<br \/>reacting vs. responding To sum it up, it\u2019s easy to get angry, act like an ass, and take our<br \/>stress out on other people without realizing the root of our problem (the proverbial<br \/>thorn). We go on reacting like this instead of actually addressing the problem. Or we<br \/>know there\u2019s a problem, but make one of the following mistakes:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>We diagnose incorrectly:<\/strong>\u00a0instead of getting to the root of the problem, you blame something (or someone else).<\/li>\n<li><strong>We ignore the pain.<\/strong>\u00a0We tell ourselves it\u2019s really not that big of a deal so we \u201csuck it up\u201d and ignore it.<\/li>\n<li><strong>We came up with the wrong solution.<\/strong>\u00a0As they put it, \u201cWe might come up with<br \/>unfounded, confused schemes to solve problems we don\u2019t understand.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For a long time, I ignored my issues with depression, for example, because I thought the<br \/>The best solution was to just suck it up and ignore the pain. This only made things worse.<br \/>worse. Or, I\u2019d tell myself it was something else because I was afraid of the stigma. When I<br \/>pinpointed and admitted the actual problem, I could figure out how to work with it.<br \/>which was a lot more productive than pretending it didn\u2019t exist. You can probably think<br \/>of a few of your own personal examples in each category. This is where introspection<br \/>comes in. Here\u2019s how they put it (emphasis ours):<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>\u201cFortunately, there\u2019s almost always information about what is really wrong. Our stream of consciousness contains a reservoir of muddled hints about our woes, which need to be gathered and decoded. The art of living is, to a large measure, dependent on an ability to locate our thorns accurately and in good time so that we will not forever be condemned to suffer our symptoms and terrify strangers with our roars.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>It\u2019s easier to ignore the problem, but introspection is crucial to our emotional<br \/>intelligence, our relationships, and our productivity.<\/p>\n<pre style=\"color: #00167a;\"><em>Author Kristin Wong , Gizmodo Media From lifehacker<\/em><\/pre>\n<p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2152,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,48],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-232","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","category-emotional-intelligence"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/232","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=232"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/232\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3625,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/232\/revisions\/3625"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2152"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=232"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=232"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pausefactory.org\/staging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=232"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}