3 steps to give feedback with EQ
1. Make an “I statement” to identify your feelings.
Starting with “You this,” or “You that,” will automatically trigger defensiveness. Examples of “I statements” include: “I feel dissatisfied with the way this is going,” or “I feel frustrated about our relationship.”
2. Acknowledge this is a shared experience.
Invite the other person to join in your assessment: “How are you feeling about this?”
3. Discuss how to improve the situation together.
Effective statements include: “How can we improve this?” or “What can we do to make this better?”